You never get a second chance to make a first impression; that’s a fact. The first few moments of meeting a person are critical. In such a short amount of time, how can you be sure others are leaving with the correct assessment of you? How can you improve your chances of making a great first impression?
Well, let’s consider: What influences your opinion of a person when you first meet them? Appearance is the first thing that comes to mind, but how often do you meet a person, make a judgment, then your feelings change after you get to know them?
It’s clear when we have an initial connection with some people and not with others. This is because a person feels better when surrounded by others similar to them. The more familiar, the more secure and comfortable you feel.
Communication with people extends beyond words. The tone of your voice and your body language can be significantly more important than the words you use. If a person you meet is sociable, cheerful, and lively, then you need to be equally as friendly and animated. In contrast, a person who is soft spoken and calm feels more comfortable if you are more reserved. It’s important to “match & mirror” and understand the difference between this and “mimicking”, which can be offensive.
Body language can create either a feeling of security or suspicion. Body language 101 teaches us to always smile when appropriate and maintain a comfortable level of eye contact. By looking into another person’s eyes, you are conveying honesty. When a person refuses to look at you, it portrays the idea that they have something to hide. Awareness of personal space is another important way to communicate effectively. You want to be close enough to show that you are engaged, yet not so close to create discomfort. It is important to communicate with people using more than words. Your voice, your expression, your enthusiasm all make a difference in how you communicate. Remember, the closer you are to another person’s behavior, the more comfortable they will feel.
Self confidence is another over-looked idea in effective communication. One way to increase self confidence is to develop a short personal story that tells others who you are. Writing out your one to two minute biography may be helpful as well. When you are confident, the people around you will be much more relaxed around you and therefore you will have enhanced connections.
Lastly, a great way to make a first impression is to focus on the person with whom you are communicating. People love to talk about themselves! Asking questions and engaging the person with positive affirmations will help form the bond you desire.
In all facets of life, it is crucial to know how to make a good impression. By making others feel comfortable, you are thought of by others in a positive way.
If you would like further information or you have any questions about this blog give me a call at 305-899-9963 or email me at johnlayzell@actioncoach.com and we’ll make it happen.
Coach John
“Living beyond the ordinary”
